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Healing is a Journey

Healing is a Journey

Thur March 27, 2025

I started my healing journey about nine months ago, and one thing I’ve realized is just how costly it is.

Wow. It takes work, fam. And it’s hard—because I’ve come to see how much pride has stood in the way of me working through trauma.

Pride, in the sense that I’d rather act like I’m okay, like everything is fine, than be honest with myself and God that I am a 5-foot-10 pillar of beautifully broken pieces.

This journey has required so much faith.
It has led me to wrestle—month after month—with the bitterness and unforgiveness in my heart, all while God’s love patiently waits to wash them away.

It has exposed deep wounds—mother wounds, father wounds—
Revealed parts of my thinking shaped by an orphan mindset.
And it has forced me to be honest with God about the moments I felt like He had disappointed me.

Healing is like going to the dentist.
You don’t really want to go because they might come for you and expose the cavities.
But after the fillings, after the deep cleanings, you can’t help but smile at yourself in the mirror.

I’ve misunderstood this journey at times… expecting a quick fix or for it to be linear.
But healing doesn’t work like that.
It’s a process—on God’s timeline, not ours.

The best thing I’ve learned? Surrender.
To allow God’s Will, God’s When, and God’s Way in my life.
To let Him shape my character, restore my brokenness, and walk with me in the midst of it all.

The wonderful thing about God is that He is the Great Physician.
He doesn’t rush our healing.
He doesn’t stand at a distance, looking in.
He limps with us.
Sits with us.
Cries with us in the miry clay—
All while delivering us out of it.

Some days, the weight of past pain feels heavy.
Other days, I’m filled with joy and laughter as breakthrough comes.

If you’re in a season of healing, keep going.

You got this.
And more importantly, He’s got you.

The One who began a good work in you will surely see it through.

 

 

Beyond Self-Centered Faith

Beyond Self-Centered Faith

 

Fri March 7, 2025                                        

Self-centeredness is the great perversion of the image of God in us. It’s why faith becomes a tool instead of a way to live. It’s why we pray only when we have a need. It’s why we seek titles instead of bearing fruit. But the Gospel is not a principle; it’s a person we must believe in and become like.

Really ask yourself today: Am I living for Christ, or am I trying to fit Him into my life for my sake?

Faith isn’t about making life easier—it’s about making us more like Him.

So stop letting life around you define who you are—let the life in you do that. Stop reacting to people who don’t see who you are in Christ—walk in the truth that the veil has been removed for you.

If your faith isn’t producing love, it’s time to assess: What am I really believing?

What I want to do

What I want to do

-Write Books

-Run Marathons

-Share the gospel

-Create Stories

-Encourage People 

-Disciple & be discipled  

-Journey with God through the nations

The thing stopping me:

My own limiting beliefs

The Good News:

His Grace is sufficient & His Mercies are new every morning 

-AGOKOGA

 

A Waiting Season

A Waiting Season

12/7/23 | Journal Thoughts

Ever find yourself in a waiting season? You know, the one that feels like you are stuck in an ER waiting room with doctors moving pass you and looking everywhere but at you. Where the air is thick with anticipation, fear, worry and doubt. The clock ticking slowly as you wait for answers to all your questions and prayers.

If you’re nodding along, welcome to the club.

Waiting and Testing: A Dynamic Duo

In this season, I am waiting and wrestling, prepping for each test life is ready to hand me. It’s not a walk in the park; it’s more of a stroll through a maze with unexpected twists. Some turns lead to a dead end and often were due to my poor decisions and others lead to beautiful moments of breakthrough.

Every wind of the maze presents a new challenge, a fresh opportunity to exercise that waiting muscle that runs all throughout my entire body. That muscle that first flexes in the ear and lastly in my toes. It require listening first to grow and then walking to go.

Sharpening the Edges

Waiting isn’t just about twiddling your thumbs. It’s a refining process, a heated whetstone that hones your character edges.

Each day of waiting is a stroke on the blade, shaping you into a sharper, more resilient version of yourself.

The Challenge Within the Stillness

Being tested and sharpened isn’t always comfortable. There are moments when the waiting feels like a relentless exam, and you wonder if anyone’s keeping score. It’s precisely in these moments that the depth of your character is revealed.

Finding Peace Amidst the Waiting Storm

Yet, in the midst of this waiting storm, there’s a peace that stands unwavering. It’s the moments you get a revelation of truth in the word of God or a rush of goodness through your time of worship.

It’s not the absence of chaos but the presence of assurance that you’re being prepared for what’s ahead. It’s the quiet confidence that the waiting isn’t in vain. It’s the moments you get a revelation of truth in the word of God or a rush of goodness through your time of worship.

Embracing the Journey

So, if you’re in the thick of a waiting season, chin up. You’re not alone in this waiting room. You’re being tested and sharpened, and every moment is a stroke of the whetstone, refining the masterpiece that is you.

Embrace the journey, because on the other side of waiting lies a version of yourself with edges so sharp, you’ll cut through any other obstacle with grace.

 

Conquer The Mind

THERE IS A WAR GOING ON IN OUR MINDS!

More than 970 million people struggle with mental health issues in the world,

About 700,000 people die to suicide each year….AND

280 million people worldwide experience depression and hopelessness.

Our mind is the main battleground of our lives

And many of us are going into combat with the wrong weapons…

2 Corinthians 10:4-5 Says:

4 For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, 5 casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ.

We can’t continue fighting spiritual wars with physical weapons!

We have to use a weapon that will destroy the lies that are being planted in our mind.

This weapon is The Word of God

The Word of God divides between bone and marrow and pulls down strongholds. It casts down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God .

How to use the Word To Fight against Spiritual Warfare of The Mind:
  1. First Identify what the attack is (what are you struggling with? is it fear, doubt, lust, anger, insecurity, bitterness, etc.)
  2. Find scriptures that you can use against the attack (find scriptures against fear, doubt, lust, anger, bitterness, etc.)
  3. Now attack those lies when they come forth (when the enemy attacks your mind with thoughts of fear, doubt, lust, anger, bitterness, etc. pull out those scriptures and begin declaring the word of God over the lies. )

You take every thought captive and bring it under the truth of Christ by continuously meditating on scripture until the renewing of your mind!

 

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